It's You. Oh Fuck. It's ME.: A Therapists View on Relationships

This is not a relationship advice book.It won’t teach you how to communicate better, love harder, or find the “right” partner.It’s a book about why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns — even when you know better.Why intimacy feels unsafe.Why blame feels easier than responsibility.Why you shut down, explode, cheat, escape, control, or leave instead of staying present when things get uncomfortable.Written by a clinical psychotherapist who’s lived it, not just studied it, this book is about self-awareness in relationships, not self-help fluff. It cuts through therapy jargon, spiritual bypassing, and modern relationship myths to get to the real issue underneath most relationship problems: unconscious behaviour.Inside, you’ll explore:Why insight alone doesn’t change anythingWhy “doing the work” often becomes another form of avoidanceHow anxiety, depression, addiction, and relationship chaos are deeply connectedWhy we confuse escape for freedom — and call it growthThis book doesn’t offer love hacks, communication scripts, or Instagram-ready healing.It offers something harder — and far more effective: responsibility, presence, and repair.This book is for you if:You keep ending up in the same relationship dynamics with different peopleYou’ve done therapy, read the books, and still react in ways you don’t likeYou’re interested in attachment, self-awareness, and emotional responsibility — but want something realYou’re done blaming partners, parents, or the past and ready to look at your own shitIf you actually want to change how you show up in relationships — not just understand why you’re fucked — read this.If you’re looking for comfort, validation, or someone to tell you it’s not your fault, this is not the book for you. Read more